Back talking again!!

So you are probably wondering where I have been for a few days. Well between work since I am self employed and taking care of chores around the house...THE GF and I are back to talking terms again and so far things are going good.

We have at least sat down together and talked about our feelings and what we both want and expect from each other.

After spending a few days of soul searching by myself...I have come to maybe think that I might be some of the problem.

I tend to do a lot for friends and family and I kind of have a tendency to throw things in people's face without even thinking.

For instance a good friend of mine , I had helped her obtain a free gym membership through one of my other close friends. One day she was upset at me and called me a SHITTY friend. I couldn't believe that I was called that by her. After all I always came and helped do things...we didnt talk every day but I had arrived late to her sons birthday and she was upset with me. At the time I was kind of cash poor and wasnt able to get her son a gift so I felt bad and didnt want to let her know that was the reason why....so after a couple weeks of her and I not talking I was trying to get ahold of her. She wasn't returning phone calls...I assumed she was mad about me not getting a gift. So I said, "I guess you are mad at me for not getting your son a gift. " Her response was, "No I'm mad because you are a shitty friend." So without thinking I said...."Oh I'm such a shitty friend, but I get you a free gym membership, while I pay for mine."

So I guess my stupid mouth get's me in trouble and when talking to my friend about the troubles in my relationship with my girlfriend I asked her to be blunt with me about things....so she tells me i need to be considerate of others feelings and to give without expecting back...It is true although I don't expect anything back typically when I do need something I do take it personal and get upset cause the person doesnt offer any help or support when I need it.